Wednesday, December 24, 2014

The Shadow Sides of Each Number

Usually when you use numerology to look at relationships, you look at two different types of numbers.

First you look at the Life Path number (the sum of the numbers in your birthdate reduced to a single digit) and then you also look at the Destiny number (which is based on the sum of the letter values in your first name.) Sometimes a matching soul urge number can also reveal a lot about a potential soul mate.

No matter what aspect of the self they are portraying, the numbers in themselves have both negative and positive traits. Often if you pay for a reading, the numerologist will spend a lot of time telling you the flattering aspects of each of these numbers (1 is a fantastic leader! - 2 means a good marriage! - 3 means fame! Etc.)

However each number is symbolic of just as many negative traits as positive ones. These negative traits can be described as being the shadow side of the Life Path Number Personality.

If you really want to get to know someone, then also consider the following when examining their numbers, as even the greatest of human beings is not perfect. The following is a description of some of the negative personality traits that can be associated with each number in terms of Life Path, Destiny Number, Soul Urge (the vowels) and the Personality Number (the consonants.)

Please don't be offended by the following, since we are talking about tendencies here, not absolutes!

Shadow Sides of ...

Number 1 Life Path - The person is too self-directed and busy to maintain a relationship.

Number 1 Destiny - The person simply is fated not to have a family or be part of a relationship.

Number 1 Soul Urge - The person subconsciously just does not want a relationship as it takes focus away from him or herself and will sabotage it every time.

Number 1 Personality - The person lacks the ability to recognize the needs of anyone else but "number 1"

Shadow Sides of ...

Number 2 Life Path - The person presents him or herself as a lively or vibrant individual but the reality is that the purpose of the relationship is for breeding.

Number 2 Destiny - The person is fated to be a parent and much of his or her life will only be devoted to that.

Number 2 Soul Urge - The person does not feel complete without a second person in his or her life and suffers from obsession and codependency.

Number 2 Personality - This type might be jealous and one track minded - unable to focus on anything but a partner.

Shadow Sides of ...

Number 3 Life Path - The person is married to a showbiz career and not available emotionally.

Number 3 Destiny - The person is destined to never marry.

Number 3 Soul Urge - The person is bored quickly by monogamy and will sabotage relationships by being unfaithful.

Number 3 Personality - The person expects a partner to play second fiddle to all of his or her creative projects and ambitions. In other words, the 3 Personality number is looking for a love slave, not a mate

Shadow Sides of ...

Number 4 Life Path - The person is sometimes not destined to be very wealthy, healthy or happy.

Number 4 Life Destiny - Being with this person will be like being  trapped on a miserable treadmill or in a maze full of problems with no way out.

Number 4 Soul Urge - This person sabotages relationships in a  subconscious attempt to correct karma from another life.

Number 4 Personality - Usually a negative individual who "cools" situations by refusing to think positively and by attaching anxiety to them.

Shadow Sides of ...

Number 5 Life Path - The person will be traveling a lot in his or  her life and unable to put down roots.

Number 5 Destiny - The person will either be physically or  emotionally unable to put down roots or connect to another human being for the purposes of raising a family.

Number 5 Soul Urge - The person will always be in love with his or her personal freedom and independence then they ever will with another person.

Number 5 Personality - The person finds it difficult to focus,  concentrate or hold down a job.

Shadow Sides of ...

Number 6 Life Path - The person is destined only to have babies or take care of the family.

Number 6 Destiny - The person is unlikely to ever escape a  dominating parent or the influence of the family.

Number 6 Soul Urge - The person will be too fearful to leave his or her family and start his or her own.

Number 6 Personality - The person is a Momma's Boy or Daddy's Girl that gives all of his or her attention to a parent.

Shadow Sides of ...

Number 7 Life Path - The person is likely to suffer from a mental, physical or psychological disorder that prevents them from connecting to other people in a healthy way.

Number 7 Destiny - The individual is destined to be "married" to a project or great work rather than a person.

Number 7 Soul Urge - The sex and death urges in this person  overpower other aspects of the personality causing self-destructive behavior and misery in relationships

Number 7 Personality - The person does not have the social skills or emotional maturity to interact with others and can be obsessive, codependent or stubborn.

Shadow Sides of ..

Number 8 Life Path - The person will love making money more then he or she will ever love a person.

Number 8 Destiny - The person is destined to be a great leader and not have much time for a personal relationship

Number 8 Soul Urge - The person may not be that interested in sex and more interested in cerebral and philanthropic matters.

Number 8 Personality - The person is just not that interested in  relationships or intimacy and may even see emotions as destructive to survival.

Shadow Sides of ...

Number 9 Life Path -The person will be too flaky and self obsessed to maintain a relationship with another.

Number 9 Destiny - Always enacting situations that will bring bad karma to act itself out again, nothing but destructive  relationships are possible for this number.

Number 9 Soul Urge - The desperate need to connect or be  appreciated by others often leads to codependency, violence,  obsession and other problems in relationships.

Number 9 Personality - This personality is usually so busy  soul-seeking or teaching others that they come off as very  patronizing and sometimes as downright nuts. It can be very  difficult for them to sustain a relationship or a job.

In next week's newsletter we will take a look at how to woo the
different numbers when it comes to impressing them business-wise or romantically.

 Until next time...

How to Woo A ..

Sometimes you are trying to get someone's attention romantically, and other times you are trying to make a good impression on them so they will hire you for a job. No matter what your reason for trying to make an impact on someone emotionally, numerology can go a long way towards assisting you in figuring out what makes someone tick.

If you really want to get to know someone, calculate all of the  numbers that create him or her as sentient human beings with  desires and wishes. This includes the Life Path Number (the sum of the birth date reduced to one digit), the Destiny Number (the full name), Soul Urge (the vowels) and the Personality Number (the consonants.) Then consult with the interpretations below to find out how to get them to notice you.

How to Woo A ...

Number 1 Life Path - Show your willingness to be a follower, not a leader. A gift of cash to a good cause in his or her name always impresses a number 1.

Number 1 Destiny - Indicate that you won't mind giving up your life for this person's. Show loyalty, volunteer to be this person's
personal assistant and make it clear you will never ask much for
yourself. Never outshine this individual or they will consider you
an enemy.

Number 1 Soul Urge - Make it clear to this person that you
understand politics and special needs and that infidelities or
consorting with your enemies doesn't bother you. Soul Urge 1's
need to not be condemned for "doing what they have to do."

Number 1 Personality - Give them a picture of themselves that  is flattering or any kind of award or recognition (faux or not)  that recognizes them as number 1. The Personality 1 also  appreciates cash, trips to a spa, makeovers and shopping sprees as gifts.

How To Woo A ...

Number 2 Life Path - Nothing makes this person happier than a marriage proposal and a wedding ring.

Number 2 Destiny- Second honeymoons, promises of love and romance
and eternal fidelity please this type. In business, signing long leases or long contracts makes this type happy.

Number 2 Soul Urge - Teddy bears, pictures of you ... anything that constantly reminds them that you are always there for them despite their enormous insecurity ... always pleases a 2.

Number 2 Personality - This type is very much gratified by a pregnancy as the child cements the reality of the relationship for them. Kids are the glue that keep them together. They also appreciate any form of seduction - dinners out, long trips with just the two of you and sentimental objects and jewelry as gifts.
Pulling on the heartstrings is the key to winning over the Number 2 personality.

How To Woo A ...

Number 3 Life Path - Give him or her a long rope and the freedom to talk to or even have an affair with whomever they want.

Number 3 Destiny - A musical instrument, trip to a spa, clothes or anything that improves their performance as entertainers matters to them the most. They also like toys.

Number 3 Soul Urge - This person is likely to be most impressed by an exotic vacation. Giving them a picture of themselves (a painted portrait for example) will impress them too. Showing them off in public is also appreciated.

Number 3 Personality - This person sees him or herself as being very unique and above the rules that normally apply to any of the other numbers. As they are so special, they appreciate gifts and ideas that are one of a kind and actions that are not easily imitated.

How To Woo A ...

Number 4 Life Path - A life-long promise to take care of this  person in every way means the most to them. Individuals who are not critical of them, or who will not blame them for their situation also impress them. Cash or a roof over their heads are the best gift.

Number 4 Life Destiny - An offer of unconditional love either in  the form of marriage or life long friendship is often required.  Financial help is always appreciated by a hard done by 4.

Number 4 Soul Urge - Any type of vacation or holiday or offer to  clear up the number 4's debts usually impresses them.

Number 4 Personality - Trips to spas, paying off bills and taking  care of the basics that they can't often impresses a 4. Paying a  dental bill or back rent usually will win a 4's heart. 

How To Woo A ...

Number 5 Life Path - This person greatly appreciates a long  vacation or exotic trip.

Number 5 Destiny - Gifts such as luggage, air miles points and  paying for travel expenses impresses this individual the most. 

Number 5 Soul Urge - This person will always be in love with the person that gives them the most freedom, both physically and emotionally.

Number 5 Personality - A 5 often can't stick to anything for long, so you need to keep things exciting and constantly changing to hold their attention. They love going to the movies, collecting things and of course travel - these things are the key to their heart.

How To Woo A ...

Number 6 Life Path - A promise of marriage usually leads to sex. Old fashioned wining and dining appeals to them most. They like to be courted in traditional ways.

Number 6 Destiny - Give their parents a gift or paying respect to
the person's parents in some way (taking them to dinner) makes this number hold you in their highest esteem.

Number 6 Soul Urge - Offer to move in with the parents should you get married, or invite the parents or siblings to stay with you if necessary

Number 6 Personality - This number is most impressed if you offer to work for the family business. They also appreciate gifts that are family oriented such as family portraits, kitchen renovations and swimming pools. Anything that will entertain an extended family makes them very happy.

How To Woo A ...   

Number 7 Life Path - As they are very self-conscious, you are best to woo a 7 by being as casual as possible so they don't feel threatened. Physical intimacy needs to be approached very gently and in fact with many of them, it will not happen at all. 

Number 7 Destiny - A donation to a great cause or work in progress greatly impresses a 7. They are often broke, even though they are geniuses, so cash also impresses them.

Number 7 Soul Urge - The perfect companion for a 7 will take care of them in every way - including doing the cooking, cleaning and being a personal assistant. This should be done without expectation of emotional rewards.

Number 7 Personality - The person appreciates the gift of trust, as most of them are well aware that their emotional problems make it difficult for them to deal with.

How To Woo A ...

Number 8 Life Path - These individuals appreciate a formal,  slightly distant companion who shows a lot of taste and class. 

Number 8 Destiny - Letting this person show off by treating you  well is often the key to their heart. They like to feel like the  hero or rescuer in a person's life. 

Number 8 Soul Urge - The person may not be that interested in sex and more interested in cerebral and philanthropic matters. They are very impressed by donations in their name to charity.

Number 8 Personality - The person may not be that interested in material things as they can usually buy themselves anything they want. They like to be trusted and to be given a long rope in a relationship to do what they like and see whom they like. They are only really impressed by gifts that are really expensive and unique.

How To Woo A ...

Number 9 Life Path - This person appreciates spiritual principles and likes gifts that recognize that they are on a course of self-improvement - self help books, new age items or religious items.

Number 9 Destiny - A sure way to impress the 9 Destiny number is to make a charitable donation in his or her name to a good cause.

Number 9 Soul Urge - These wounded healers are always looking for a soul mate - a promise that is kept means a lot to them.

Number 9 Personality - Things to keep them grounded and focused such as daytime organizers, shelves or paying for a maid are especially appreciated by this very disorganized and flaky number. 

In next few newsletters we will start looking at relationship compatibility between different numbers.

Until next time..